Friendship out-of-office messages are all very well until you find yourself in need | Coco Khan

A Twitter thread has tapped into a wider conversation about womens emotional labour, says commissioning editor for Guardian B2B, Coco Khan A friend in need is a friend indeed, but a friend who asks permission to talk is better. Thats at least according to Melissa Fabello, a US-based activist and writer who posted a now-viral thread that divided audiences online. Fabello lays out the benefits of this practice, such as recognising that a friend may have limited time or that the conversation may be upsetting, and encourages people to say no to their friends if they choose to. She even drafts a delete as appropriate template message that reads: Hey, Im so glad you reached out. Im actually at capacity/helping …

How I learned to make peace with supporting my parents financially

As a teenager I resented the injustice of keeping my family afloat with money but like many second-generation immigrants Ive come to see the other side For as long as I can remember, I have supported my parents financially. My family is broke. Like, really broke and has been my whole life. My dad cleans cars for a living and is in a lot of debt. My oldest brother used to make some money, but he died. My second-oldest brother is in prison.My other siblings are still young, studying or looking for work. I started supporting my family in high school in England, in dribs and drabs from school bursaries and state benefits. I didnt have much cash, but I …

My husband wont let me drive our car, because Im a woman | Dear Mariella

This controlling behaviour needs to be addressed unless youre a terrible driver, says Mariella Frostrup The dilemma My husband wont allow me to drive the car when hes in it. I used to accept this, but for the past four months Ive challenged it. Now that we have a son, I dont want him growing up thinking Daddy is in charge. When I first raised this, I casually said Id drive us home from a day out and didnt think itd be a big deal, but it was. He threw the keys at me and had a face like thunder. Another time, I was going into town and he wanted to come, too, but expected me to get out of …

With the greatest disrespect: how Her Majesty’s Press offers its candid friendship

The Duchess of Sussex may think she has a good case in her legal battle with the media. But just look at how these other royals fared Has there ever been a more cruelly miscast candid friend to the royal family than Her Majestys Press, who are neither truly candid, nor remotely the sort of people one knows socially? And, yes, I obviously include myself in that. In any case, the ONLY acceptable way to look at the royal family is that practised by Princess Michael of Kent, of whom the Queen is once said to have remarked: Shes rather grand for us. (Remember: the couple have decided to launch a legal action. There is, as we know, no snowflake …