It’s a pretty safe bet that many members of the animal kingdom feel various emotions. There is even strong evidence to suggest that some species care deeply for members of their family group, yet it’s hard to imagine that any animal could have the same depth of affection as people do. Being in love is one of the strongest emotions there is. Even though love is a marvelous thing, there are some downsides to it. First, love can cloud your judgment; preventing you from seeing things as they are. Second, love doesn’t always last and that can lead to intense heart break that may seem like it will never end. If this sounds familiar to you, then you can take comfort in knowing that mending a broken heart is possible.
However, you need to stay grounded in reality. The truth is that while you can mend your heartache, it’s rarely easy, and it will take some time before you return to feeling normal. That being said, it is worth the effort when you consider the alternative of not fixing the problem.
The funny thing about a broken heart is that you won’t always feel like it’s broken. There will be times when you feel sad, no doubt, but there will also be times that you feel guilty, angry or even relieved. But, until you are completely over your former partner, you can be sure that there is some heart break playing a role in your emotions. So, how do you go about mending a broken heart?
To be blunt, you need to confront the problem. While you may be able to take temporary comfort in denial, it will only delay things from getting better. You have to be completely honest with yourself and how you feel.
Being honest is the only way you will be able to work things out. It won’t be easy, but you need to figure out why you feel so heartbroken. Do you feel betrayed by your ex? Do you feel you betrayed them? Was there a death? Were they unfaithful? Do you feel guilty? Do you think you could have done more? Do you think you did all you could, and just can’t understand why you broke up anyway? Whatever it is, identifying the real problem is the key to solving it.
Once you have figured out what the root of your broken heart is, you can fix it. For example, if you’re feeling guilty, then you need to forgive yourself. But if it was something your partner did, then you need to forgive them. You have to be willing to do whatever it is that needs to be done.
You also need to be realistic about mending a broken heart. Because it isn’t always easy, you may not be able to do it on your own. If you find you’re just not getting any better, then it may be time to seek help from a counselor…again, whatever it takes. Give it time and face it head on, and you will be feeling better before you know it.